Read on to know how the lives of couples end up in hell due to the ignorance showed by the modern youngsters towards the protocols of this auspicious ceremony.
We can see many examples of people who end up into utter distress after their marriages. Why is it so? Is it because of the modern culture adopted by the couple? Or is there any spiritual reason behind it? It has got both the twists actually. If you want to read this article you have to make up your mind for a few minutes and blindly accept Indian horoscopes and Indian Astronomy for a few minutes. The reason shall become evident as you go on reading the article.
The first question is: - Which marriage shall one opt for: love marriage or arranged marriage? I saw a very interesting quote written behind an auto-rickshaw which read “Love marriage is Red, Arranged marriage is Green” this makes things a bit clear. I partly agree with this. Because all love marriages do not end up in distress. There are many couples living out there in the huge crowd who are very happy with their choices, and, there are also plenty of others who have accepted their parents’ choice and are living a very happy life as well. Let us take a dive deeper into this subject.
Those who want to marry the one whom they like are the ones who do not know the quality of compromise. If such people are forced into an arranged marriage they will always compare their wives with the girl whom they loved and will always find faults in their wives. They are the ones who do not like restrictions of any sort. These people think that they are very practical and can take their own decisions. Many a times even if they are wrong they argue with themselves that they did the right thing at the right time. Such people can never adjust with the surroundings and want everything to run as they wish. These people are much business oriented and live their lives in a practical manner. They never believe in their parents’ decision. They always try to find faults with others but never with themselves. Such people cannot think of anything like an arranged marriage. At the most if they are independent in thinking and yet take the decisions after consulting their parents, such people will agree upon a love come arranged marriage. And as they are very successful in their carriers their parents do not object the decisions taken by them. But if such people are brought up in a very strict environment they will do what their parents fear the most. Run away with somebody! Such people should talk to their parents and settle things their way. Their tastes are very different and they cannot be forced to adjust with the situation. If such people are forced into an arranged marriage they will get very frustrated and have a row with anybody who comes their way. They will break the peaceful environment of their houses and make the whole surrounding violent with their temper. So if you belong to this category I think it is time for you to go to your parents and tell them right away about everything that is going on in your mind. Do not worry about the further circumstances. You will anyhow have to face it someday. And if at all you are forced into an arranged marriage don’t worry. Time heals wounds. Just put your attention to the good qualities within the girl you will be married to and you will definitely start loving her within a day. Everybody has their own plus points and minus points. After all beauty isn’t just everything that you see inside a girl in order to live with her or maybe even love her. All you need is a girl who will stand by you under every circumstance and fill you with supreme confidence. Truly speaking, if you get a girl who loves you the most in this world you don’t need any other thing to make your life more beautiful. Beauty fades with time but true love doesn’t. So if you want to love someone just make sure that you will be able to love her throughout your life. If you are interested in her physique then you do not love that girl but are interested in having physical relationship with that girl throughout your life. If she loses her physical appeal after marriage you will undoubtedly search for another chick to hang around with. This will destroy two lives altogether. So please be careful. If you are such a person I advise you not to marry at all. You will be simply wasting a girl’s life in order to fulfill your lust.
The other category consists of guys who always depend upon their parents for taking the most important decisions of their life. But they do not always agree with the will of their parents. They will think in all different ways and discuss all the different situations with their parents. Finally they will settle down when they find that a particular decision will benefit them from almost every direction. This opinion of theirs will be submitted to their parents and finally the bill of their will, will be passed. This category also includes guys who leave the decision part to their parents and just keep on doing the job assigned to them. These guys are the ones who can live happily with every decision of their parents. They will not even look back to see if the girl chosen by their parents suits their taste or not. The reason is because these guys do not have any taste of their own. They do not search for anything in their lives. They are just happy with everything and accept everything which comes their way. The above two categories usually opt for arranged marriage. They do not take any decisions directly and have faith in the decision taken by the elders because they have faith in their parents’ experience. This is quite sensible. It is true that our parents are very mature as compared to us and can take the right decisions for us. But if the parents are impractical and are interested in the dowry part offered to them by the other side, such marriages will also end up in despair. So it is up to you to take the right decision. After all it is your life. It is you, who has to live with the girl for a whole lifetime. If your parents are interested in the dowry part do not just nod your head like an innocent bull and get yourself culled with a garland around your neck.
All this was regarding the practical concerns. Now let us take a look at the cultural concerns.
In India we have a thing called as Kundali which has the details of the position of the stars and the zodiac in which we are born. Believe it or not there are many people out there in the crowd who take a look at our birth date, Zodiac and the star which has its influence on us and tell the nature of that person just as it is. They earn in millions and trillions with their knowledge in this field. This is actually based on a very ancient science which had been discovered by our forefathers and is very useful while determining the exact match for a person. It has a thing called as gunas which have to be matched by looking at the horoscopes of the boy and the girl. If substantial number of gunas match, the pair is said to live a very happy and joyous life. The word gunas actually means characters. The gunas can be thought of as different aspects of ones character. If all the characters match, the marriage is assumed to be a very auspicious one and the groom is assured lots of luck from the bride’s influence. This seemed very funny at the beginning but I found out that in many a cases the predictions of the horoscopes are absolutely foolproof. I can give you many examples regarding this topic. The divine play becomes very evident when we take a look at the following example.
A girl was married to a guy by a broker. The broker had taken the horoscopes of the bride and the groom and reported that the horoscopes matched very well. Then the real story began. The broker went to the groom’s house a year later in order to see how the couples were doing. As soon as he entered the house the parents of the groom caught the broker and beat him till he was half dead. Reason? The marriage proved to be very fatal and had destroyed the peace of the house. The groom was very unhappy and was very disappointed with his life. He had become lunatic and was acting like a pervert.
The girl had a very dominating character and wanted everything to run as she wished. She told her husband to get separated from his parents. The guy refused to do so as he found no valid reason to take this decision. The girl started having a row with her mother in law everyday and created a great havoc in the house. The boy could not tolerate her nonsense and took the bold step of slapping his wife. The girl was egoistic in nature. She could not bear the insult done to her (insult- according to the girl). She did something which nobody could even think of. There was a very rich and handsome guy in their neighborhood. She took her chance and successfully flirted with him. The bad news was that the marriage of the married couple was not registered by now. So the girl took the decision of running away with that guy. But, even now the girl was not satisfied. Her husband had reported the news of his missing wife to the police station (the poor fellow did not know that she had fled away with his neighbor). The moment she came to know about this she hired a lawyer and lodged a complaint against her husband claiming that he had harassed her parents and had demanded a dowry of rupees twelve lakhs (she knew how much amount was present in her husband’s account). The parents of the girl were also criminal minded and decided to support their daughter’s claim. And then one day the police went to the groom’s home and arrested him after taking the statement from the bride’s parents. The groom was still under confusion. He never understood what was going on. But then, when he saw his wife coming to the court with his neighbor, things started becoming clearer. Everything went as the girl had planned. She told the court that the reason why she looked so happy in her marriage photographs was because she was harassed by the groom that if she would try to do something which expressed her refusal in accepting the groom he would kill her parents (which wasn’t true at all). As for the dowry part, the parents of the bride had withdrawn a sum of rupees twelve lakhs during her marriage and had lent it to their relatives who were in urgent need of money (the girl’s father was a money lender). The fact was that the girl’s father had himself urged the groom’s parents to take some dowry as it was a matter of status and respect for him. The court saw the date of withdrawal of the money from the bank and suspected that the claim laid out in front of them was true. Her husband worked as a garage mechanic and had a medium income which could not yield him such a huge amount. The amount in his account was actually the amount that his forefathers had gained and saved for their forthcoming generation. The boy was imprisoned for six months. In the seventh month he became lunatic and was shifted to the mental hospital. His parents were sentenced to imprisonment for five months. By the time they came out of prison everything went upside down. Luckily a very old friend of the boy’s father met the parents and revised the case in court. This guy was helped by the boy’s parents in his tough times. He proved to the court all the facts of the case and saved the money that the family had given to the girl’s family as compensation. The girl is now safe in the jail and the boy whom she had run away with is also giving good company to her behind the bars.
But how did all this happen when the horoscopes had matched perfectly. Here comes the real part of the story. The broker was not getting enough income to fill his stomach. All the youth who had applied for marriage were not making a good pair according to the horoscopes. The broker had to convince the parents of the bride and the groom using false statements in order to fill his family’s stomach. He anyhow did not believe in the horoscopes and hence paired the girl and the boy. Later when the girl’s horoscope was inspected by an expert it was found that the pair was a very horrible and opposite one in nature. It was clearly visible in the girl’s horoscope that she would be marrying twice in her lifetime. It was also clearly seen that the house she stepped into would become hell in no time. What about the boy’s horoscope? His horoscope clearly said that he had had relationships with many girls in his youth and as his time was really bad it became easier for god to punish him. As for the guy becoming lunatic and pervert, the people who knew his story did not agree to give him their daughter. And those who did not know his story refused him on the basis of his horoscope. The boy was anyhow a pervert. With the unavailability of a girl in his life he became a lunatic pervert!
Hence the moral of the story is: if you do not want to become a lunatic pervert, consult a good astrologer. Have a cool day !!!!
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